Let's face it: perfectionism is keeping you stuck in so many ways. And it probably has been for years, if not decades. It makes you work extra hours every day, because you just can't finish that project without it being 100% perfect. It makes you spend every free minute taking care of your friend's needs, your parents' desires, and everyone else who may need your help. You feel exhausted and tired, because you can't switch of your mind at night and often don't wakeup well-rested.
Perfectionists, listen up! I know you may not be fully happy with how 2021 went (I still feel it myself...), and maybe in January of 2021, you had the perfect plan for how you're going to glow up your life that year... Then life happened and your expertise, time, and energy was required at your job, and you couldn't help but lean in and (over)deliver, making sure everyone was happy with your results at work.
It's crazy times, and it has never been easier for us to escape into a Netflix binge-watch or an hour-long scrolling through social media to escape the reality. While I don't believe that there is a "right" or "wrong" here, and I absolutely believe in a mindful Christmas movie marathon (have you watched Single All The Way yet?), it is all about finding the balance.
It is no secret that the holiday season can be challenging for many reasons – but one thing that tends to seep into everyone’s holiday season is the busyness. It seems there is always somewhere to go, something you need to buy, something you need to cook, somewhere you need to travel to, the projects you need to finish at work before the end of the year - the list goes on and it can get a bit overwhelming!
It is not a crime to be a good girl.
In fact, it’s a gift.
You love.
You give.
You care.
You take on.
You keep going.
You believe.
You hope.
You support.
You don’t give up.
You have an open heart, even when you get hurt.
You always choose love.
These are qualities not everyone has, and you should be proud of them.
Emotions are real and it is healthy to feel them. Pushing your emotions away or avoiding your feelings will turn you either into a numb robot or put you on an emotional rollercoaster.
The secret: it is not your job to control them.
Especially in times like now, that don't seem to ever end and get better, many of us are struggling with the unexpected and daily changing situations worldwide - me included. So I've put together 3 tips that I use all the time help me navigate emotions in a healthy way.
I just got back from a 2-month trip to Bali, and I honestly thought I'd be going to Yoga several times a week (doesn't everyone go to Bali because of yoga?!), but I actually haven't gone to a single regular yoga class while I was there! I much preferred doing some juicy Yin yoga, meditation classes, chanting, and dancing. And my heart is so full right now.
See, a few years ago, I used to do vinyasa or hatha yoga daily at home, but my body doesn't crave that type of movement anymore. Right now, my body needs more sweaty workouts, more flowy movements, and deep relaxation practices - and that's OK!
YOLO. You Only Live Once.
While many people use this acronym to "justify" going to parties every possible day, getting drunk, smoking, doing drugs or other toxic things, I see this a little differently:
I believe that since we only live once, it's even more important to live the best and happiest life we can. #theglowlife
Being healthy, feeling well-rested daily, doing meaningful work that makes a difference in this world, surrounding yourself with people you're obsessed with and can talk to about deep life stuff for hours is a blessing.
I personally want to live a happy life as long as I possibly can! What about you?
"I am creating the life of my dreams."
What a powerful statement, right? If you said that statement out loud, would it be true? Would you feel excited? The fascinating thing about affirmations, other than the fact that they truly work, is that they only work if you believe that they work. Your energy about them matters, your feelings about them matters, your internal voice matters, and your subconscious belief patterns matter.
Although many countries are opening up, and some activities are returning to a "new normal," many of my clients, however, have been feeling quite socially overwhelmed. There is so much to catch up on, so many friends to reconnect with and so many functions to attend (in-person!). They have been saying YES to everything, and then feeling over-committed and resentful of the pile that is building up for them.
Introverts, listen up!
Self-Love
...means showing up to the f*ing mat when all you want to do is eat chips and watch Netflix.
...means doing the damn heart opening meditation when you just want to close your heart and crawl up in bed and cry.
...means writing in your freaking journal that you just want to throw out the window.
Self-care on the good says is just kind pampering. Face masks, bubble baths, lighting a candle, reading a book... It feels nice and you really love it. You practice something regularly, you strengthen a muscle, so that when things don’t always go right, you know you have the strength to get through it. You know you can rely on yourself.
Practicing self-care on the hard days is true self-love. You do it when you really don't want to. You do it when you just want to throw in the towel and walk away. You do it when all you want to do is hide under the covers and cry and sleep. Showing up with kindness, compassion, and love for yourself in these moments, you have figured out a bit part of what I call "the Glow Life".
It may require a bit of a loving kick in the butt from your higher self sometimes, and you may really want to do the opposite of it, but when you have reached the point where, in your darkest moments, you take care of yourself in a loving way, that's what true self-love is.
Love yourself enough to show up for yourself when you need yourself the most.
I created a free self-care guide if you’re someone who always puts everyone else - especially work! - first and needs some tips for perfectionists to slow down again! Click the button below to download your self-care guide for free:
Yes, you can definitely set boundaries while improving your relationships as well as having more time left for yourself. Taking care of your own needs is your duty. When you're filled up, you can serve others so much better. When you're filled up, you can show up for your loved ones with 100% of your energy, love, and time. Whereas when you're already burned out, your plate is overflowing, and you're running at 7% of your own batteries, you can only show up for them from that place.
![When one of my clients asked me at breakfast whether I was on a dating app, I bursted out in tears. #theglowcamp
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